oh aarie, that sucks. what missing GPA requirements??? how long ago did they say they'd send something? i'd call them if i were you if it was a long time ago... grr. maybe something just didn't go through right. i don't know...
poop. if i were you, though i'd at least want to know why you didn't get into arts... y'know? i don't know.
how did your exam go, lily? well, i hope. rest lots now before organic chem!
so yesterday i took a study break and hung out with some of dan's friends since one of them that is from abbotsford (sp?) came into town (david bamford, for aaron and anyone else that may know him..?). i dunno. hanging out with them is way different from hanging out with you guys (duh). not quite uncomfortable, but... different. i don't want to say repressive but i'm going to say it anyways. less open, i guess. i spend most of my time with dan and sometimes you guys (in terms of social contact) and i guess i'm not really used to watching what i say too carefully. we had a debate on gay rights and it was kind of weird. dan didn't say much, i noticed. i asked him about it later because i initially thought that it was because matt and david and i were so into it that he couldn't get a word in. he said it was because david was pissing him off (he used the word "bigot" within his explanation), which i thought was kind of funny. but not in a funny-hilarious way... more like, i didn't know our debate was so heated. i don't know. i mean, i was pretty not aggressive... what's the word? assertive? i was pretty like, emphatic on the point that people should be able to do what makes them happy in their personal lives as long as no one is getting hurt without being judged and... i don't know. harassed? anyways, i really believe that but david kept bringing up not extremist, but like... i guess more demanding people and i kept saying that you find ridiculous people in any group, gay or not. there are like, environmental extremists, religious extremists, etc, but they do not represent the entire population.
anyways yeah. so of the guys i know that openly oppose gayness (i don't really get it. to me, it's not even an issue... it just is. it's like, "i oppose you existing! i banish thee!" wth?), they are (more than) okay with lesbians. or more specifically, lesbians in porn. just thought i'd point out the double standards and the shift in issues. it's like "well everything 'normal' is okay... and everything that 'benefits' me is fine. everything else, i'm going to condemn." i don't know.
i know this is probably not the best place for political rights discussions, but just had that on my mind and thought i'd bring it up. i was telling dan how if he was mad, he should have brought up some points. he said he was afraid he was going to end up yelling at david. but the thing is, i really do believe in change. not without effort, of course, but i really do think we can shift people's opinions... and maybe not superfundamental ideals, but we can always improve ourselves and i am really optimistic. dan used to be homophobic (slightly, i think), and i pointed that out to him.
we all have the capacity to change and open our minds to new things, different points of view. as long as we keep the notion of respect in mind, there is so much we can learn from others. david said he didn't understand how people could be bi and i gave a random analogy i made up to explain the way i saw it (ask me if you want; it will take too long to type) and he was like, "hey, you know, if you hadn't said that, i would have never thought of it that way myself." and in my head i was like yessss we're getting somewhere.
-chels
ps- sorry for the rambling post. see you guys soon. wish me luck for tomorrow! almost done!
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